I recently had the opportunity to attend a workshop featuring the amazing Lauren Goldstein. The She Says ATX event talked about self-love + networking. As a new freelancer, both of these topics really resonated with me. Here’s a little of what she had to say.
One of the first points Lauren discussed was getting rid of all the shoulds in your life. Things society, your family, or even you tell yourself that you should be doing (or not doing). These shoulds shouldn’t run your life. Don’t waste your time doing things that make you unhappy just because you think or your mom thinks or the world thinks you should!
If you spend all of your time focusing on what you should do you will never realize what you want to do. In that way, shoulds offer a safety net to ‘normal” life or path most people take but often times the greatest adventures + success stories come from those who push pass the shoulds + follow their own paths.
Another topic covered at the event was being an effective communicator. We all know that most communication is non-verbal. There is much more to good communication than just the way you stand- although that is very important. Lauren wrote an article for The Huffington Post that talks about 5 ways to be a more effective communicator: be genuine, be present (and stop multi-tasking), ask questions, build trust, and call.
Integrating these five tips into your everyday communication will make you better at not just getting your point across, but also listening. Active listening is becoming a rarity in communication today. In a 280 character world, understanding is key.
That last key takeaway I’d like to share is that of impostor syndrome. So many of us feel like ‘ faking it or we don’t deserve to be where we are. Although she doesn’t subscribe to the “Fake it ’til you make it” philosophy, Lauren does say “Faith it ’til you make it,” Have faith in your self + passions + abilities to know that you deserve all the good things happening to you + you earned your place.
Lauren had so much great information to share. If you want to learn more from her, check out her blog + the Golden Key Partnership. If you have any thoughts on shoulds or the other content in this post, let me know in the comment section.