When it comes to Valentine’s Day, you either love it or you hate it. Personally, I’m all about it-even when I’m single. I never truly understand hating it. It can be a very materialist, superficial holiday, but it doesn’t have to be.
Many people think Valentine’s Day was conceived in the minds of card writers + chocolatiers but that isn’t true. There are a few different stories about which St. Valentine (there are three) is the inspiration behind Valentine’s Day. This one seems to be the most common:
Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
Others believe Valentine’s Day was a way for early Christians to “christianize” the pagan festival of Lupercalia.
Regardless of the history behind Valentine’s Day, it’s a holiday that is celebrated in our society + we all have to deal with that. You can look at Valentine’s Day as something that is all about couples + spending money, or you can look at it more broadly as a celebration of love + appreciation for all your important relationships.
If you’re with someone
If you have a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, etc. this February 14 that means that Valentine’s Day is at the very least something you have to acknowledge. Your feelings on Valentine’s Day aren’t the only ones that matters. Even if you both find it to be a cheesy day that just manipulates people into spending money, you still secretly enjoys getting something special. Give something special.
Maybe it’s something little like cleaning up your significant other’s kitchen, bringing home take out, or even flowers or candy. Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be the only day that you do something special for your loved one but it is a nice reminder to show them you appreciate them.
If you’re single
Maybe you aren’t in a relationship this year. That doesn’t mean there are tons of great things about Valentine’s Day. Here are a few things about Valentine’s Day you can still appreciate.
- All the candy. There is so much Valentine’s candy, and on February 15, it all goes on sale.
- Cheesy movies. Some of the best cheesy movies come on around Valentine’s Day. This year Fifty Shades of Grey comes out.
- There are some great singles parties. A bar here in Austin is having break up themed drink specials, only playing break up songs, and letting you throw darts at a picture of your Ex.
- You can have the best girl’s nights. One Valentine’s Day in college my friends + I made chocolate covered strawberries, drank champagne, and watched a lot of Nicholas Sparks to celebrate one another.
- Yourself. Valentine’s Day is a great day to pamper yourself + remember how awesome you are. Groupon has a lot of great spa deals.
Whether or not you’re in a relationship, Valentine’s Day should be a day to remind all the important people in your life that you love them. Your friends, parents, dog, whoever. Spread the love this V-Day.
What do you love about Valentine’s Day? What’s your plan? Let me know in the comment section.