With the average marriage age increasing, the way Americans meet their potential spouse has changed. Today, knowing someone who married their high school sweetheart has the same likelihood as qualifying for Mensa or having five siblings. If not high school, where are people look to meet their next partner? 40% are looking online, says an eHarmony study. The younger you are, the more likely you are to use a dating app to find your next partner.
With the potential to meet so many people online + only a few moments to make a good impression, it is important to create a profile that shines. You’ve got to market yourself + market yourself well. The first step to that is to determine your target audience. Some of this can be done through the apps filtering features (i.e. age + locations). Be honest with yourself about what it is you want in a partner + then think about what parts of yourself (don’t fabricate any qualities) would most appeal to them. If you want to attract someone smart + put together you should show that you’re smart + put together. “When you are in control and think through what you post what you share with others, then you have more control over that energy that you’re bringing back to you,” says online dating expert, Devyn Simone, of TLC’s Love at First Swipe.
Every online dating site or app has a different number of photos you are allowed to show. No matter how many you can use you want to make sure the photos you choose represent you + all the sides of your personality. Apps like Tinder + Bumble give you six pictures to show potential matches who you are + what you like. The most successful images are different for women + men. But if you look closely you can see a formula that many people follow. Your pictures should include the following things:
- A selfie or headshot of you staring into the camera smiling
- A social picture with friends (more than one photo preferable)
- An action shot showing you do something you love (or do often)
- A full body shot
- A picture from your travels or doing something exciting (hiking, skydiving, snorkeling)
- Something career-related or showcasing your day-to-day life
Pictures can double up on meeting these requirements. Your pictures should obviously be of you and no more than 8 months old MAX. You also want to make sure you have at least one picture where you are alone so there is no question which person you are in the group shots (thank you to Chelsea Laine Francis + Cassandra JK for these pictures)!
Choosing what to write in your profile bio is just as important as choosing good pictures. Simone says you should keep it simple. “If you had to sum yourself up in one sentence or if you had to describe what makes you happy in one sentence, what would you say? Start with that.” Give someone enough to start a conversation, but not so much you have nothing to talk about. A few ideas might be:
- Social media manager with an affinity for 90s sitcoms and strawberry margs.
- Yogi by day, frozen yogurt connoisseur by night.
- Searching for a long-armed gentleman for help with hiking selfies.
- Recent transplant from NY. Teach me the ways of fried chicken and sweet tea.
- Hoping to find someone who loves pizza and New Girl as much as me.
- Writer who’s always down for a cup of coffee and a burger, preferably not together.
Riddles, personality questions, and jokes are also great to add to spark a conversation. Things Simone says to avoid in your profile: profanity, mentions of an ex, too much sarcasm, and negativity. Show your interests and personality! Emojis are fun, just don’t go overboard.
Hopefully, these tips help you create a dating profile that not only better represents you, but also attracts the kind of partner you want. If you want to discover more statistics and tips about online dating I suggest reading Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari. It’s gold.
This article is geared towards women’s profiles (sorry guys). Want a similar post for men? Let me know (and maybe volunteer for a profile redo so I have a model to work with)! Post your best online dating openers and tips below.