Recently, I have become very into the enneagram. I’ve taken the tests, followed the Instagram accounts (this one is my favorite), and started reading the books. I’ve also had my friends + family who are interested to take the test as well. It has been so fascinating to learn how we can better relate to them + how they can relate to me. With different driving forces, self-care for your enneagram can look so different.
Whether you’re a one, a six, or a five, the things you need to feel balanced, safe and secure. No matter what number you relate to, here are so ways to give yourself a little love this February + every month of the year.
Self-Care for Your Enneagram
Ones: The Machine/Perfectionist
- Give yourself some grace – it’s okay to make mistakes or slack off every now + then.
- Try something that can’t be won. Try watercolor or something that has no objective or measurable right or wrong.
- Mediate. Take some time with yourself, without getting in your own head + being a self-critic.
Twos: The Parent/Helper
- Learn to say no. You can’t help anyone if your own cup is not full.
- Treat yo’ self. Do something that is just for you. Whether that is getting a massage or seeing a movie you’ve always wanted to see.
- Take a stroll by yourself + just enjoy the day.
Threes: The Winner/Achiever
- Spend time with those closest to you; people who know you behind the mask of hard work. Be yourself with those who accept you for who you are.
- Journal. Spend some time in self-reflection that isn’t goal-oriented.
- Do nothing. Sit on the couch with cookie dough + catch up on Grey’s Anatomy or binge Friends. Allow your mind to turn off + focus resting + not achieving.
Fours: The Tortured Artist/Individualist
- Do something just for the joy of it. Maybe that is cooking, maybe that is going for a walk. Choose an activity you enjoy + just enjoy it.
- Volunteer. Choose a cause that is near + dear to your little rebel heart + act in service of it. Helping others may not sound like self-care, but it will fill your back up.
- Take a bubble bath, Monica style. If you don’t know what that means, do the dang thing. Get your salts, your candles, your music, your wine. Make it a sacred space.
Fives: The Detective/Investigator
- Get your sweat on. Get out of your head + in touch with your body through a run, pilates class, or some other workout that gets your heart rate up.
- Unplug. Cut off your connection to the outside world + just be. Spend some unplanned time with yourself.
- Give yourself time. Don’t force yourself to rush into decisions. Schedule your day so that you have time to process things.
Sixes: The Oracle/Loyalist
- Focus on a self-affirmation/mantra. Choose a phrase that you need to hear + spend some time meditating on it.
- Take a break. When you get caught up in the details, stop + take a little time to relax before you get back to the task at hand.
- Talk to a therapist. Making yourself vulnerable can be hard, but speaking to a professional will do wonders for your anxiety.
Sevens: The Party/Enthusiast
- Tackle that project you’ve always wanted to complete. Whether that is organizing your closet or painting a mural, focus on one big project + get it done!
- Travel. Take yourself on a trip + experience something new. You’re fueled by new + unique experiences, so lean into that.
- Schedule based on your priorities. You’re super busy, so make sure you’re scheduling time to do things that recharge your batteries + that need to be done (hint: laundry).
Eights: The Dragon/Challenger
- Live + let live. Realize that other people are allowed to make their own decisions whether you agree with them or not. Certainly, stick to your boundaries, but allow people to be who they want to be + to make mistakes.
- Read some fiction. Take some time to dissociate into a world that isn’t your own.
- Take care of your body. You expend a lot of energy. Make sure you are exercising, eating right, getting enough sleep, and doing all everything you can to take care of your powerhouse.
Nine: The Wallflower/Peacemaker
- Get out of your comfort zone. Try a new workout or cuisine. Better yet, go out for karaoke. Do something that challenges your complacency.
- Sleep. The world can be an exhausting place. Be sure you are getting plenty of rest + time to chill away from the chaos.
- Create a routine. You are a creature of comfort. Add structure + routine to your day in a way that supports your goals + needs.
This list is in no way exhaustive on what self-care your enneagram will respond best to. At the end of the day, it’s about finding what works for you + recharges your batteries. If you have a strong wing, maybe a combination of things will work. The entire point is to refill your cup + make tomorrow better by taking some “you time” today. What’s your enneagram? What is your favorite form of self-care?! Don’t forget that therapy is a wonderful form of self-care we should all look into.