The year is 2020. Even though we are all stuck at home, we are busy as hell. And while I mostly believe that “busy” is a construct, I also know + believe that we all have a lot on our plates. Work, family, side hustles, self-care, friendship, they all take up a piece of our time. It all boils down to priorities + whether or not we want to invest in our friendships.
Personally, I find it super important to invest in my friendships. Having strong, capable women in my life who know the real me is a crucial form of self-care. As humans, we aren’t meant to go through life alone + in order to stay connected, we have to invest in friendships + other facets of society.
Because I have lived a few different places + have friends who have done the same, my friends are a bit spread out. This distanced has caused me to thin the herd + forced me to really focus on those that are true + life long friends. Many of my friends I have known since I was in elementary school and high school. But some of my best friends are those I have met in the last ten years. Staying connected with them + their lives is a priority for me (and hopefully to them as well). We all get a lot on our plates so making time for each other when we can is critical to maintaining our bond.
How to Invest in Your Friendships
- Show appreciation – One of the easiest ways to stay connected to your friends is to remember their special days + show them you care. Whether it is their birthday, anniversary, or they just celebrated a milestone like a promotion or home purchase, send them a gift or flowers to show them you’re thinking of them.
- Schedule recurring meets ups – Set up a time for you + your bestie to reconnect on a weekly or monthly basis. Maybe it is watching The Bachelor on Mondays or brunch on the third Sunday of the month. Carve out time + have a strict cancelation policy.
- Fit them into your routine – It can be difficult to find time to meet with all your friends every month, so fit them into your routine! When I had a long commute, I would often use that time to call my long-distance friends to catch up. Busy month ahead? Invite them on your weekly trip to the farmer’s market.
- Find common hobbies – One of the easiest hobbies to share is working out. Find a buddy who loves Pilates as much as you + sign up for classes together. Or be like my friend Lily + I who often check with the other when we sign up for something cool. That’s how we’ve attended more than our fair share of Friends Trivia Nights + a margarita making class.
- Get together in groups – If you have a lot of friends, getting together with each one individually can be tough. So why not get together as a group. I have a group of friends from high school (elementary school if we’re really counting) who I have a bible study with. It has been a great way to connect with the whole group all at once. A group chat can also be the gift that keeps on giving.
It is easy to get lost in your job, partner, and other important parts of your life. But, staying connected with friends helps you stay grounded + remember who you are. I know that you’ll find you are much happier when you take the time to invest in your friendships.
How do you stay in touch with your friends? Tell me over on Instagram!